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ATTACHMENT · ECR-R

Free Attachment Style Test

Built on the validated ECR-R. Discover how you bond in close relationships — your attachment anxiety, avoidance, and which of the four styles fits you.

The four attachment styles

Adult attachment style describes how a person experiences closeness and separation in relationships, measured on two independent dimensions: attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. This test administers the Experiences in Close Relationships–Revised (ECR-R), a thirty-six item research scale, and locates you in one of four regions: secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, or fearful-avoidant.

Adult attachment is described by two dimensions — anxiety (fear of abandonment) and avoidance (discomfort with closeness). Where you fall on each produces one of four styles:

Secure

You're comfortable with both closeness and independence. You can trust, lean on others, and be leaned on, without losing yourself — and you tend to communicate needs directly.

Anxious–Preoccupied

You crave closeness and attune deeply to others, but you can worry about a partner's love and fear abandonment. Reassurance feels good; uncertainty feels loud.

Dismissing–Avoidant

You value independence and self-reliance and stay composed under emotional pressure — but you may keep distance, downplay needs, and find depending on others uncomfortable.

Fearful–Avoidant

You want closeness and fear it at the same time — drawn to connection but wary of getting hurt. Relationships can feel like an approach-avoid push and pull.

About this test

This test uses the Experiences in Close Relationships–Revised (ECR-R; Fraley, Waller & Brennan, 2000) — one of the most widely used and well-validated measures of adult attachment in psychological research, with strong internal consistency on both subscales. Your attachment style isn't fixed: with safe relationships and self-awareness, people move toward security over time. This is a tool for reflection, not a clinical diagnosis.

COMMON QUESTIONS

Attachment questions, answered

What are the two dimensions this test measures?

Attachment anxiety is how much you worry about a partner's availability and responsiveness. Attachment avoidance is how uncomfortable you are with closeness and dependence. They are independent, so a person can be high on one, both, or neither — which is what produces the four commonly named styles.

Can attachment style change?

Yes. Attachment patterns are learned in relationships and can shift in them. Longitudinal research finds meaningful movement toward security over time, particularly in stable relationships and in therapy. A result here describes a current pattern, not a permanent trait.

Is the ECR-R a clinical diagnostic tool?

No. The ECR-R is a research questionnaire measuring normal variation in how adults relate, not a diagnostic instrument, and none of the four styles is a disorder. If your relationships are causing you distress, that is worth discussing with a qualified therapist rather than resolving with a questionnaire.

Why is this version on a 5-point scale?

The published ECR-R uses a 7-point agreement scale. We administer it on a 5-point scale so the answering interaction is identical across every test on the site. Response granularity has minimal effect on reliability, but it is a deviation from the published instrument, so the result page discloses it.

SOURCES

Where this test comes from

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    ECR-R item set — R. Chris Fraley, University of Illinois

    The authors' official item list and reverse-keying, reproduced verbatim in our scoring code.

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